Are Women in Porn (Gasp)…Perfectly Normal?


I was with a boyfriend at Ralphs or Albertsons getting our usual dinner fare (Cap’n Crunch and chocolate milk) when suddenly he gasped and grabbed my arm. “OMG!” he said in a high-pitched squeal. “Do you know who that is?” He pointed to an attractive, very normal looking woman in sweats, looking at paper towels. “Um, no,” I replied, confused. “Does she teach spinning at my gym?” “NO, that’s Sunny Leone,” he said in a dramatic stage whisper. “She’s a porn star.”
Wow. She looked so…normal. And dressed normal. And her boobs (from what I could tell) looked pretty normal. Porn stars – they’re just like us!

Now, obviously the way they make a living to pay their bills differs from most of the population, or at least my social circles. Not to mention the stigma attached to their choice of profession – “they must be really fucked up to do porn.” Is that really the case? There was an interesting article in Jezebel refuting that assumption. Instead, women in porn have reportedly higher self-esteem, no higher incidence of psychological childhood trauma, etc. They’re about as fucked up as you or me. (OK wait, maybe just you – I’m not a good comparison, I’m completely loco.)

Interesting too that there hasn’t been that kind of stigma attached to men in porn – instead, the assumption is they were all super studs that just wanted to bang for a living, and got their dream job. My take? It takes all kinds of people, just like any other profession. As a feminist, there are certain aspects of porn I may have issues with, but who am I to say that THEY all have daddy issues?

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