My Date (OK, FINE, My Interview) With a Porn Star: Manuel Ferrara

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To say Manuel Ferrara is a busy guy is an understatement. A four-time AVN Male Performer of the Year (think George Clooney winning the Oscar for best actor and multiply by four,) actor and director, he is one of the most sought-after brand names in the adult film industry. Not to mention his rabid fan base, of which I recently became a member. (If you don’t know who he is, read our guest blogger Heather’s phenomenal post about this porn god’s insane popularity. Go ahead, we’ll wait.)

I had to get an interview. Had to. This is the sex blogger’s holy grail. So, I began my research. Be warned: this man is so seductive his fucking Twitter account will bring you to your knees. Charming. French (the accent. Ah Oui.) Funny. Witty. Intelligent. Humble. And on-screen? He will not only fuck you six ways from Sunday, he will make you feel like you are the only woman in the room. Hell, on the planet. He stares deep into your eyes, whispers gently in your ear, kisses you until you weep, until the world melts away and there’s just you and him and your hearts are beating as one…sorry, where was I? Oh yes. Research. Anyway, he’s not your typical porn star. This man LOVES women. And what he does to them should be considered a work of art, if only the Louvre would be more open-minded. Still not convinced? Let me throw in this little gem: on Elegant Angel’s podcast (a must-listen), he’s asked what celebrity he would like to sleep with. His response? Sarah Silverman. Not Angelina Jolie, not Charlize Theron, Sarah Fucking Silverman. Duh, YES, interview please! I proceeded to stalk, mewl, yowl and whine at Mr. Ferrara until, bless his heart, he agreed to meet.

I arrange to meet him at a Starbucks in the valley. (By the way, what does one wear to an interview with Manuel Ferrara? Christ if I know. I wanted to look like the smart, hipster-blogger type, but also attractive, like maybe a little nerdy-sexy? Hold on, this man bangs gorgeous women for a living – who the hell was I kidding? I panicked and ended up looking like I fell into the clearance bin at American Apparel.)

Surrounded by hyper tweens slurping Venti Mocha Frappuccinos, my phone rings. It’s Manuel.

“I just got off of work and I haven’t had dinner. Are you hungry? I was thinking sushi, is that OK with you?”

His thoughtful questioning, not to mention that he was willing to have dinner with someone he had never met, was winning him major brownie points. Mais bien sur, Monsieur Ferrara.

A short time later a handsome, tall Manuel, effortlessly-stylish in a dress shirt and jeans, greets me at a hip sushi restaurant with a smile and a hug (a hug!). We settle down at a booth to begin our chat.

Wait – first I need a drink. JAMESON, FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, PLEASE. Manuel orders a Diet Coke; he doesn’t drink, smoke or do drugs. He also plays basketball and is a Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu expert. In addition to having sex for, like, 8 hours a day. Oh, what did you do today? Indeed.

I jump in by bringing up the Howard Stern interview, in which his female co-stars all hail him as the best. He makes a cute “yippee!” gesture, as if he just won a game of ring toss at a carnival.
“You obviously appeal to women, and that’s a rarity, you must know that.” I press him.

“Is it a rarity?”

I stare at him, incredulous. Is he serious? “Yes! Speaking from a woman’s point of view.”

“OK, well, I’m happy to hear that,” he says with a playful grin.

“I mean, for me, watching some kinds of porn, it’s usually from a male POV, so the guy’s just there, not really connecting at all with the woman, and he’s kinda…hairy…” I trail off, about to say “and gross” but realize I may be insulting some of his colleagues.

“Yes, I understand. It’s difficult for me when I shoot my own movies to find the right guys, when I’m not in the scenes. It’s not easy.”

“So, what do you do?”

“OK, here’s some of my problems: the guys get intimidated. They do good for others but for me, never do good. The guys that think that I want them to do what I do, which is not the case – otherwise I’d just put myself in every scene. I want every scene to be different; not just different girl, same repetitive thing over and over.
Having guys connecting with the girl is very difficult now. Too many guys nowadays that pop a pill to get hard in front of a camera so they don’t need to do all the things to turn them on – the kissing, the touching, the talking…it’s hard to find guys that are naturally into women.”

Zee kissing, zee touching, and zee talking talk make me slightly light-headed. I take a big slurp of Jameson and ask, “So, now it’s too clinical?”

“Oh yeah. And you can tell. When you watch porn, you don’t really see the guy because he’s doing this or that…when I do a scene, I don’t think you can really get away with not putting me in it because I’m so close to the girl, you know? I want to show that in my movies, the connection between the performers. Some of the guys, they don’t even kiss the girls. And that? I don’t know how you do. I don’t know how you can even get into it without kissing.”

I ask about the evolution of porn, from his days of being an avid (young) fan in France to now – what had changed?

“The Gonzo style in porno gave access to…how do you say, it gave access to directing porn, too easily to too many people.”

Gonzo? All I can think of is that guy on the Muppets. Picking up on my confused expression, Manuel quickly elaborates: “The Gonzo style is more voyeuristic, you have a little camera, you follow people around and they fuck…as opposed to the feature type with a story and lots of cameras. When you go on the Tube sites, the free sites, the majority of the scenes are Gonzo types. Too much of that, too many of those. It hurt the business. I think that—I’m sorry, I’m trying to find my words. Sometimes, my English is not that good…” he gives me a bashful half-smile.

I’m having no problem with the way he speaks. Nope, no problem whatsoever. “I speak a little bit of French,” I interject with a goofy laugh. A half semester’s worth, to be exact.

His shy grin suddenly flashes into big, bad wolf. “I wanna hear that.”

Water. I need water. The waitress appears. “Can I please get a glass of water?” I squeak. Manuel orders a bottle for the table. Jesus, this guy makes H20 classy.

I slurp and motion for him to continue.

“What I mean is, there is waves. There was that big Gonzo period, and I think people are now finally trying to get away from that. People are now trying to go more to a story, have it more scripted.”

“So, now as a director, now that you have the reigns, what’s your goals?”

“See, for what I do, I don’t like to call myself a director. I’m more a voyeur. I try to stay away from the old style of directing. I just want people to fuck in front of me.”

“You want to keep it untouched—“

“Natural. I just want to be a fly on the wall. And that’s my way to try to create a connection between people, to not impose positions, or things to do, so it looks more natural.”

I ask Manuel to expand upon the “pop a pill, fuck a girl’s brain’s out” predilection.

“It became so normal. I learned that when I came to America.” He describes how, in France, the guy who had to pop a pill was pointed at, whispered about. Then, arriving for his first shoot here, “on set, they had a bowl full of pills. It was crazy.”

I go off on a tangent/rant about how America is a pill nation and everyone is under the influence, prescription drug companies are creating addicts, etc.

Manuel shrugs. “Well, in America, they treat it like a business. If this is what you need to get the job done, you take it. I don’t think it’s good for the performers, nor do I think some 20 year-old guy should be popping Viagra every day.”

“Well, he shouldn’t have to!”

“Look, everyone has different libidos. I was shy growing up, I would not take showers in front of people. But then I go to a casting call for a porn, and I’m the only guy, out of all the guys at the casting call, who could do it, get hard. You don’t know until you try. It’s like basketball, anyone can play basketball, not everyone can be Kobe Bryant. Everyone can fuck at home, not everyone can fuck on camera.”

So yes folks, I’m having sushi with the Kobe Bryant of the porn industry. I ask Kobe if it was a conscious decision, the way he connects with women on camera. He gives me a vaguely confused, innocent look, as if to say, who, me? Oh, come on. I begin to rattle off the Manny Special: looking intently in their eyes. Passionate. Sensual. Kissing and kissing. And more kissing. All the attention upon them. It’s fucking on a spiritual plane of existence. Again, I’m met with a wide-eyed, innocent stare. “But—that’s the way it’s supposed to be, no?”

If only! I bring up the casual violence sometimes depicted in porn. “What’s your take on the, ‘let’s slap the bitch around a few times, then fuck her…’”

“Listen, I’m all for rough sex. But I’m only up for it if I know the girl’s into that type of sex.”

We’re interrupted by the waitress, who takes our sushi order. Fun fact: Manuel hates avocado.

He takes a discreet sip of his water and continues. “The way I do, it’s the way I am in my personal life. I couldn’t do it another way. I’d be turned off.”

“It’s the only way you know?”

“It’s the only way I want. I’ve definitely have had an evolution, there’s been changes over the years, what I’m into, what turns me on…but it’s the same me, always kissing and looking at the girl, that’s a constant. It was always the way I felt, at that period. It was never me trying to be like what another guy does, or me trying to be rough. I never did a scene where the girl shows up, and, boom!” He makes a hard slapping motion with his hand. “I smack her face, like that. I could never do that. I am not a woman beater.”

Our food arrives. I try to be cool and use my chopsticks to awkwardly pick up my King Crab roll instead of my usual style of grabbing it with my hands and shoving it into my mouth.

Mouth half-full, I explain to Manuel why I’m such a fan. “I see the change in the woman; I recognize it, her physical, emotional, mental reaction, it’s pure and sincere. When I’m watching porn, yes, it’s a means to an end, yes, it’s getting off, but it’s also like, I’m watching myself. And we women know when it’s fake and when it’s real. And when I watch you with a woman, the switch goes off. Like, you can tell they’re no longer at work. They have officially left their job. You see everything soften, and you can see they’re aroused. Like, TRULY aroused. You hear it from the pit of their stomach.” Manuel smiles big and nods in approval.

“What’s your favorite scene?”

I describe a scene with him and Katsuni in a bed – he briefly plays hard to get, then gives in- HARD.
The two of them together is so hot I think it nearly melted my hard drive. And I had to get my office chair reupholstered.

“Ah yes, Katsuni…” he murmurs. “We used to be involved.”

-Read Part Deux of my dinner with Manuel Ferrara, in which I grill him mercilessly about his dating life.

19 Comments

  1. Tripp

    August 23, 2012 at 11:59 am

    Excellent post! I can’t wait to see the next installment. I know my pornstars very well but have never heard of Manuel. Weird. I must be out of the loop. Did you guys go to Katsuya on Ventura? ;)

  2. Stephanie

    August 23, 2012 at 1:55 pm

    Where can I sign up for this job?

    • vinod

      September 25, 2014 at 6:28 am

      apply for me on this no 8082197185

  3. erik2690

    August 23, 2012 at 6:33 pm

    Nice interview. Looking forward to part 2.

    • Ariel

      August 23, 2012 at 8:37 pm

      aw, thanks! :) coming soon…to a computer near you…

  4. jim

    August 24, 2012 at 9:31 am

    nice interview :)I’m a big fan of manuel ferrara.

  5. tiani

    August 24, 2012 at 8:16 pm

    Mmmm Manuel…great choice. Cool interview so far. Can’t wait to catch the 2nd half.

  6. Dicey Grenor

    August 25, 2012 at 6:51 pm

    Awesome interview! I am sooo jealous. Bring on part deux

    • Ariel

      August 27, 2012 at 9:41 am

      thank you!! so glad you liked it – it was a lot of fun to do ;) stay tuned…

  7. Melissa

    August 27, 2012 at 5:26 pm

    Awesome! Simply delicious!! I dunno how you managed to eat sushi in front of him, but I’m hugely impressed! Can’t wait for part deux! ;o

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  9. anaiah

    September 16, 2012 at 8:37 pm

    Omg! Your sooooo lucky to have had dinner with Manuel. I don’t watch porn unless he’s in it. Man if only he had a twin in Canada…..
    p.s Great interview. I like your writing style.

    • Ariel

      September 22, 2012 at 12:22 pm

      thank you so much! I was lucky to have such an “easy” subject ;)

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  11. Eunice

    April 9, 2013 at 12:34 pm

    Ariel – you’re a more controlled woman than I. Given I’ve just learned of this “homme extraordinaire” in the last 24 hrs (like you, encountered on the HS AVN interviews), I would be incapable of restraint.

    I’m with you on every thing you’ve noted about him. The first video I saw, I knew this is no ordinary porn. He is truly with his partners, the eye contact is a fantastic turn on, and I want to know what he’s whispering to them!

    I’ve flipped for this man!

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  13. james

    June 15, 2013 at 6:01 am

    I’m speaking from a heterosexual guy’s POV, but I actually seek out manuel ferrara’s releases first and then follow the female pornstars from there. The reason for this is that quite simply, there is no other male porn actor that brings out the best in women as consistently as manuel ferrara does. For me, watching people have sex is only arousing when both parties are into it. Even as a guy, I can pick up on cues like: girls engaging in eye contact, girls actually initiating contact/ or even kisses, wrapping of legs around the waist, all of which indicates to me the girl is really into the scene. Of course, not every one of manuel’s releases are perfect , but of my top shelf porn collection, he is definitely more often than not.

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  15. Ryan

    December 6, 2013 at 2:21 am

    Manuel ruined American porn for me. Now all I watch is european gonzo. Thanks a lot Manuel… :)

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